Summary

Ahead of her journey to find love onThe Golden Bachelorette, leading ladyJoan Vassos revealed what she’s looking for in a man and what her dealbreakers are. Joan, a 61-year-old private school administrator from Rockville, Maryland, got herBachelorNation start on Gerry Turner’sGolden Bachelorseason. They had a deep connection, but Joan had to leave the show early to return home to her daughter who was experiencing postpartum depression.

Now, Joan is thrilled to blaze the trail asthe first-ever star ofThe Golden Bachelorette.Joan is a widow who lost her husband, John, to pancreatic cancer in 2021 after 32 years of marriage. He was 59 years old. Joan has four children and three grandchildren. As Joan begins filming her season, here’s what she’s looking for in her future partner (and what she won’t tolerate).

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Joan Is Looking For A Kind Family Man Like Her Own Father

Joan Says Her Father Was ‘The Ultimate Gentleman’

In an interview withET, Joan admitted that she has a"long list" of what she’s looking for in a partner, so being the Golden Bachelorette is going to be"a hard job.“She shared that she"obviously"hopes to find someone who’s"kind and a family man.“She explained,“My father was the ultimate gentleman. He opened doors, carried everything, hopped up when a woman walked in the room, was always polite, never cussed, just was such a gentleman.I am looking for a gentleman.There is something about that that is so charming and endearing to me.”

In an interview withextratv, shared via YouTube,Joan shared that she’s looking for someonewho’s"energetic, kind, generous, loves kids, loves their family like I love my family.I know that’s a tall order, but that’s what I’m looking for, and I’m not going to settle.”

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Joan Wants Someone With A Sense Of Adventure

Joan Planned On Having Adventures With Her Late Husband

In herETinterview,Joan also shared that she’s looking for"somebody that has a little sense of adventure.“She explained,“I worked my whole life getting to this place in life, and had planned on havingall those adventures with John.“However, Joan added that"when that all kind of vanished, I really missed that thought of planning a future with somebody and doing some fun things.

Joan declared,“I am ready for somebody that has a little sense of adventure and ready to have some fun. You only get to do this once. You only get to live once.It’s a big world and I’m ready to see it.I feel like I gotta get moving.”

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Joan Wants A Man Who’s Open

Joan Wants A Reciprocal Relationship

In her interview withET, Joan shared that she plans to be an open book with theGolden Bachelorettemen, and she expects the same from them. She explained,“I feel like being open is really, really important,and telling those things about yourself that people don’t know, and making sure I do a good job of pulling that out from men.”

Joan continued,“I don’t imagine they’re going to be very forthcoming with feelings, and so that may be a little bit of a job.I think it’s really important to make them feel comfortable.I am going to share with them, but I need something back, guys.“Joan and Gerry were very good at opening upto each other duringThe Golden Bachelor, so she has some experience with forming a deep connection with someone in a short amount of time.

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Joan Hopes To Meet Someone ‘Tall, Dark & Handsome’

Joan’s Late Husband Fit That Description

In her interview withextratv,Joan said with a laugh that she’s looking for a man who’s"tall, dark, and handsome — that’s what I was married to before.“In a January 2024 Instagram post,Joanshared a photograph of her, John, and their four children on the third anniversary of his passing. She paid tribute to him by saying,“He was the husband that always made me feel safe and cherished.”

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Joan Won’t Tolerate Rudeness

Joan Urges People To ‘Just Be Kind’

One of Joan’s dealbreakers is rudeness. She explained in herETinterview,“I hate someone who’s rude to a service person, a waitress or the checker at the grocery store.That really turns me off. Like, I’m walking away from you right now. Goodbye.“Joan insisted,“You need to be nice to everyone. Be kind. Just be kind. It’s not that hard.”

However, Joan acknowledged that it might be challenging for her to see this duringThe Golden Bachelorette. She said,“Dating out in the wild is very different than dating here, soit’s gonna be hard to have those things revealed.That’s gonna be a little bit more difficult, but I’m gonna be watching out.“Joan was one of the kindestGolden Bachelorettecontestants, so hopefully she’ll find someone who fits this description.

Joan’s requirements for herGolden Bachelorettemen might seem like a tall order to her, but she deserves the world. What she’s looking for in a man is really quite simple: a family-oriented person who’s kind to others.This describes Joan exactly, so hopefully she’ll find someone who’s as selfless and loving as she is. She was the perfect choice to be the first-ever Golden Bachelorette.Joan deserves to find her happily-ever-after duringThe Golden Bachelorette.

The Golden Bacheloretteis scheduled to air on Wednesdays at 8 p.m. EDT on ABC in the fall.

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Cast

The Golden Bachelorette: This reality series offers one woman in her later years the opportunity to find love, as a group of seasoned men compete for her affection. Participants bring diverse romantic histories, seeking a meaningful connection and a chance to build a promising future together.